You want to get as many matches as possible, and present yourself as the best candidate, right?
We already talked about 4 things you shouldn’t do in your matchmaking profile on another post, so in this one, we’ll be showing you 4 things you should do.
These are things that don’t seem obvious at first, but can put your head and shoulders over the competition, and much more likely to get relevant matches that can eventually lead to finding the right person for you.
Tip #1: Tell a Story
Many people fall into the “I” trap the moment they start writing their profiles.
They start writing “I like”, “I wish”, “I want”, “I am”, and it never stops.
Believe it or not, this isn’t the best way to show potential mates who you really are. In fact, so many people do this that it only serves to make you even less noticeable.
But the worst thing is that it really doesn’t say anything about you. Anyone can say they are this way or that.
No, you want to stand out. You want to show potential mates who you are, not tell them.
How do you do that? Simple. With a short story about yourself.
Instead of saying “I’m an outdoors person”, tell potential mates about that time you went camping with your friends.
Tell them what your favorite part of that trip was, and how it made you feel. Maybe tell a joke you shared with your friends over the campfire.
You can also write about your favorite thing to do on Saturday nights, and explain the night in detail.
This will show your potential mate who you are, entertain the people who read your profile (which makes you much more likable in their eyes), and help set you apart from all the other suitors out there who only write “I am, I like, I want” – making you much more memorable in the process.
Tip #2: Don’t Be Too Demanding
One of the biggest mistakes you can make when writing your profile is coming across as too demanding.
It’s perfectly fine to write, “I’d like for my ideal mate to be religious, funny and a non-smoker. These qualities are important to me”.
But it’s not fine to write: “You should be 6’2” tall, have brown eyes, be a mature, entrepreneurial person, enjoy walking in the evenings, reading in the mornings and be willing to move far away at a moment’s notice. Oh, and you should love Beethoven and Mozart as well, but only the early symphonies”.
Trying to be too demanding can make you come across as a superficial and difficult person. Instead, attract the kind of person you want by showing how you are in your profile.
Do write the most important things you’re looking for in a mate, but just make sure to keep it short and sweet – no one likes a grocery list of “requested” qualities.
Tip #3: Choose the Right Picture
The first thing your potential mate will see about you is going to be your picture.
This will effectively act as your first impression for them, so it makes sense that you should want to take a really good picture.
Here’re some tips for taking a great picture:
Make sure to smile naturally, but happily. Nothing looks better on you than a genuine smile, and nothing says “approachable” and “trustworthy” like one either.
Take the picture in a well-lit room, but not directly in front of a window. You want there to be enough natural light as to create soft shadows on your face and bring out your best features.
You can also take a picture outside, but the same rules apply: try to get an even amount of light and avoid hard shadows on your face. Also, make sure that you are the focus of the picture, not the environment or the people around you.
Make sure the picture is of good quality. It’ll be hard for people to take you seriously if your picture is all blurry!
Try to put a recent picture of you. People resent seeing great-looking pictures of others, then realizing that the person doesn’t look like that anymore. The more recent the picture, the better.
Tip #4: Proofread What You Write
A badly-written profile is an instant turn-off for many potential mates (especially educated and high-value ones).
Always make sure to read over what you’ve written and check for spelling errors. You can use a word processor like Microsoft Word to do your spell checking, or look up difficult words online.
This is really important, as your profile will be giving potential mates a look at what you’re like as a person. A badly-written profile will only make you look sloppy, untidy and irresponsible – and you don’t want that!
Armed with these 4 tips, you’re ready to write a profile that makes you look many times more attractive and desirable, and that will greatly set you apart from your competition.
Best of luck!