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4 Profile Tips That Will Help You Attract More Matches

You want to get as many matches as possible, and present yourself as the best candidate, right?

We already talked about 4 things you shouldn’t do in your matchmaking profile on another post, so in this one, we’ll be showing you 4 things you should do.

These are things that don’t seem obvious at first, but can put your head and shoulders over the competition, and much more likely to get relevant matches that can eventually lead to finding the right person for you.

Tip #1: Tell a Story

Many people fall into the “I” trap the moment they start writing their profiles.

They start writing “I like”, “I wish”, “I want”, “I am”, and it never stops.

Believe it or not, this isn’t the best way to show potential mates who you really are. In fact, so many people do this that it only serves to make you even less noticeable.

But the worst thing is that it really doesn’t say anything about you. Anyone can say they are this way or that.

No, you want to stand out. You want to show potential mates who you are, not tell them.
How do you do that? Simple. With a short story about yourself.

Instead of saying “I’m an outdoors person”, tell potential mates about that time you went camping with your friends.

Tell them what your favorite part of that trip was, and how it made you feel. Maybe tell a joke you shared with your friends over the campfire.

You can also write about your favorite thing to do on Saturday nights, and explain the night in detail.

This will show your potential mate who you are, entertain the people who read your profile (which makes you much more likable in their eyes), and help set you apart from all the other suitors out there who only write “I am, I like, I want” – making you much more memorable in the process.

Tip #2: Don’t Be Too Demanding

One of the biggest mistakes you can make when writing your profile is coming across as too demanding.

It’s perfectly fine to write, “I’d like for my ideal mate to be religious, funny and a non-smoker. These qualities are important to me”.

But it’s not fine to write: “You should be 6’2” tall, have brown eyes, be a mature, entrepreneurial person, enjoy walking in the evenings, reading in the mornings and be willing to move far away at a moment’s notice. Oh, and you should love Beethoven and Mozart as well, but only the early symphonies”.

Trying to be too demanding can make you come across as a superficial and difficult person. Instead, attract the kind of person you want by showing how you are in your profile.

Do write the most important things you’re looking for in a mate, but just make sure to keep it short and sweet – no one likes a grocery list of “requested” qualities.

Tip #3: Choose the Right Picture

The first thing your potential mate will see about you is going to be your picture.

This will effectively act as your first impression for them, so it makes sense that you should want to take a really good picture.

Here’re some tips for taking a great picture:

Make sure to smile naturally, but happily. Nothing looks better on you than a genuine smile, and nothing says “approachable” and “trustworthy” like one either.

Take the picture in a well-lit room, but not directly in front of a window. You want there to be enough natural light as to create soft shadows on your face and bring out your best features.

You can also take a picture outside, but the same rules apply: try to get an even amount of light and avoid hard shadows on your face. Also, make sure that you are the focus of the picture, not the environment or the people around you.

Make sure the picture is of good quality. It’ll be hard for people to take you seriously if your picture is all blurry!

Try to put a recent picture of you. People resent seeing great-looking pictures of others, then realizing that the person doesn’t look like that anymore. The more recent the picture, the better.

Tip #4: Proofread What You Write

A badly-written profile is an instant turn-off for many potential mates (especially educated and high-value ones).

Always make sure to read over what you’ve written and check for spelling errors. You can use a word processor like Microsoft Word to do your spell checking, or look up difficult words online.

This is really important, as your profile will be giving potential mates a look at what you’re like as a person. A badly-written profile will only make you look sloppy, untidy and irresponsible – and you don’t want that!

Armed with these 4 tips, you’re ready to write a profile that makes you look many times more attractive and desirable, and that will greatly set you apart from your competition.

Best of luck!


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Here are 4 Things That Could Harm Your Chances of Finding the Perfect Match (And How to Avoid Them)

Filling out your matchmaking profile can be an intimidating task if you don’t know what works and what doesn’t.

You want to cause a great first impression, come across as the ideal mate… but it’s not that easy.

I mean, out of all the things you could write, how do you know which are the most likely to get you great results?

And more importantly, how do you identify those things which could backfire on you – and sink your chances of getting matches with potential mates?

Well, we know a bit or two about that, and are here to help you.

Here are 4 things you shouldn’t do when writing your online matchmaking profile, (and what to do instead).

#1: Don’t Lie or Exaggerate

You may have read this before.

This is one of the most important principles of meeting potential mates online. No matter how tempting it may be – never lie or exaggerate about yourself in your profile.

Don’t lie about your age, height, weight or your hobbies and passions. This will eventually backfire on you, because not only will the people you match with realize you were lying to them – but you won’t even be attracting the right people, to begin with!

Do:

Don’t be afraid to write about things you really like, and presenting yourself just as God made you. Things will work out much better for you this way, and you’ll attract much better matches to your profile.

#2: Don’t Be Vague

Many new (and veteran) users make the mistake of writing a lot about themselves, without really saying anything that matters.
Things like: “I am a fun person”, “I am intelligent”, “exciting” or “loyal” don’t really say anything to the people reading your profile.

What’s worse, most people write exactly those things, using the same words over and over again.

This makes it even worse because you’ll be blending in with the rest of the crowd if you do this – making it harder for the right mate to find you!

Do:

Instead, be specific. If you’re a fun person, write about why you think that is.
What makes you fun? What do you like to do in your free time that makes others think you’re fun to be with?

Instead of saying, “I like music”, write about which musician you like the most, why you like him or her so much, and how much of a great time you had at his/her last concert.

Don’t be afraid to get specific with this. This will help you come across as much more human and relatable, and improve your chances of getting matches from like-minded people.

#3: Don’t Write Your Entire Life Story

However, being specific doesn’t mean writing your entire life story.

Online matchmaking profiles are there to give potential mates a quick glance at who you are – not a detailed autobiography.

Usually, 200-250 words works best.

Remember that your profile is just a way to open up for more conversation latter on. Putting way too much in there scares people off, and makes it hard for potential mates to feel a connection towards you.

Do:

Think about the top 5 adjectives that best describe you, and then ask yourself “why do these adjectives describe me so well?”

Using your answers, write about yourself in a specific, but concise way. You’ll be amazed at the results!

#4: Don’t Be Negative

Meeting people for marriage isn’t easy sometimes, and many of us may have “war stories” to share.

However, your online matchmaking profile isn’t the place nor the time to do this.

People that look at your profile are hoping to get a glimpse of what it’s like to be with you.

No one wants to talk to someone who’s first impression is talking about their problems, things they hate, or past disappointments.

Do:

Instead, focus on presenting your happiest, most interesting side.

Talk about the things you love to do. Briefly, but specifically, explain why you love to do them and why these things make you happy.

Show all the potential mates out there why you love being who you are, and how amazing it’d be for them to get to know you more.

Now you know some of the things that could harm your chances of finding true love online, and what to do instead to increase your chances of meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right.

With these tips in mind, you can now go over to your profile and start writing in a way that will truly set you apart from the rest, presenting you as the amazing individual you really are.

Best luck!